Thursday, 31 December 2015

When is domestic violence not domestic violence?

Confession: since I inherited my son's smartphone from about two years ago I have developed the bad habit of checking my phone in bed.

Today, first thing in the morning, I replied to YP's WhatsApp wishing me a good 2016. We go back to secondary school, YP and I.

On Radio 4 I heard someone say the likes of NHS (National Health Service) do not have 'buyers' who know what they want about their IT system. So £40 MILLION down the drain. Yep. Wrote and spoke about that elsewhere.

Then read of how the UK Border people -- what ever they are called now -- are making it easy for immigrants who claim domestic violence to gain citizenship (or here).

Guess what? I wrote to the UK Border Agency in October 2012 with information about how I thought it more than a coincidence that several people knocking on our doors for help had been turfed out by their spouses.

An even more 'confounding' case was that of a woman who claimed that she did not know that the man she married and who had sponsored her visa was already married. The woman claimed 'domestic violence' (emotional, as a result of being cheated) and that she could not return to her family because she had married outside her caste.

She was back in a couple of weeks with a stamp on her passport giving her access to generous welfare benefits.

What about the man who contracted a bigamous marriage, which is illegal? As far as I know he did not face any legal repercussions (hopefully I am wrong in this).

Extract from my letter (to which I had no reply):

As a taxpayer I would like UKBA to answer the following questions:

(1)   How stringently are applicants who sponsor spouses checked for their current marital status before visas for spouses are approved?

(2)   Would this woman’s husband who made the fraudulent visa application, and who promised to support her but is not doing so, now be prosecuted, or would he suffer no penalty at all?

(3)   What is there to stop this client’s husband ‘marrying’ another woman, get found to be bigamous, thus letting her claim benefits on grounds of not being able to return to her country?

(4)   Even though no domestic violence was perpetrated, why was this woman given LOTR [Leave Outside the Rules, to remain in the country] on grounds of domestic violence?

(5)   If applicants such as this woman make a claim that she cannot return to her family due to her marrying outside her caste, what does UKBA do to verify this claim? More scientifically, how might this claim be verifiable at all?

(6)   How many cases do you have on file where immigrants claim that they cannot return to their homes because they have married ‘outside their caste’?


It irks me so when people make a mockery of our rules. Domestic violence is no laughing matter because real people get hurt when there is real violence. It is not something that we should -- as we say in Singapore -- play-play about.

Sunday, 13 December 2015

Let us extend SG50 till SG51

In between making mince pies and doing other Christmassy chores I read about the 500 packets of chicken rice (this link was very slow loading, please be patient).

Nice. I thought.

Previously I made comments about the Jubilee here lamenting that, well, Jubilee is not about bragging about how well we have done or goodie bags, and the marketing hype that went with it. Jubilee is about setting people free and cancelling debts. But how many of us were doing that?

Subsequently I learned of the Methodist Church Getting Out of Debt or 'Good' programme.

It was heart-warming to learn of another initiative, this time directed at foreign workers. Better still, the young and privileged were involved.

Let us hope that more private companies, whether or not under their CSR (Corporate Social Responsibility) banner, would do even more for those in Singapore who could benefit from more Jubilee action.

Let's keep the Jubilee fire going till 8th August 2016!


Wednesday, 2 December 2015

People are attracted to ISIS because

Alternative title: Cultural ineptitude is not the same as racism

Having been traumatized by the events of 9/11 and 7/7 when the husband was caught up in the aftermath I did not plan to write about Paris. But as details about the backgrounds of the terrorists filtered through I found it fascinating to note the type of individuals that the ‘so-called Islamic state’ (as the BBC now calls it) seem to be attracting.

Someone else has explained how poverty and ignorance are not the cause for people turning to extremism. If only we can identify that ‘something else’ that makes individuals susceptible to ‘radicalization’, we might be able to prevent it.

The news media tell us that the likes of ‘Jihadi John’ seemed to have suffered a significant amount of family breakdown, unstable and mobile childhood, teasing and bullying, poor performance at school as a result of these disadvantages, ‘going off the rails’ to indulge in drugs, women and other ‘un-Islamic’ practices and crime before being radicalized.

People on the margins of society – ‘misfits’ – are the target recruits for IS.

How did they become misfits? As a social anthropologist/sociologist, I am interested in how individuals acquire the requisite ‘cultural capital’ to become fully functioning and happy adults in their society.

In a lot of literature young British from migrant groups are often said to be ‘between cultures’. They are neither fully comfortable in their own ‘migrant’ nor adopted ‘British’ cultures, however British culture is defined.

Interestingly I found in my own research in the late 1990s British-born Chinese who were ‘straddling cultures’. They were as capable of ‘being Chinese’ when with other Chinese, as in ‘being British’ when with other non-Chinese compatriots, having acquired the cultural capital to succeed both inside and outside ‘Chinese-only’ contexts.

When we look at the history of migration into Britain, we see within many other migrant groups, no matter what colour of skin, cultural, linguistic or economic background, the majority have eventually acquired this cultural capital to thrive in mainstream society. Why do potential IS recruits remain ‘between cultures’?

Is it Islam, the English language (or the lack of), the ghettoization of certain migrant groups, racism, or a permutation of these factors?

There are thousands of Muslim migrants who are thriving in British society. My successful Muslim friends and their grand/parents chose, for example, to become vegetarians where they could not get halal food. They ‘kept calm and carried on’ and made the most of their economic and family situation.

These days the demand for halal food in schools is so strident that some schools have quietly acquiesced and simply feed the non-Muslim children halal food, much to the dismay of those parents who are pro-animal welfare. Even supermarkets are complicit in this.

Until recently Britain is the only European country that did not require its new citizens to speak English, its official language, to a minimum standard before being naturalized. Previously first-generation migrants, keen to make their future in Britain, learned to speak it to the best of their ability. It opened doors to good jobs.

I came to work in England in 1993 and noticed that increasingly the authorities were translating forms and notices into a host of migrant languages at schools, hospitals and other public agencies. How different it was from Amsterdam where I could not even get English newspapers!

The people running Britain were clearly suffering from the collective guilt of her imperialist past. Excusing new migrants from learning English was part of this corporate apology.

They call this ‘multiculturalism’. An unintended consequence was the ghettoization of certain communities.

Large groups of newer migrants now grow up entirely within their own ethnic enclaves. Is it any wonder that they cannot speak English?

When their children do not mix inter-culturally, how can these migrants understand why other people have different cultural traits and worldviews?

Many jobs and professions require more than paper qualifications. Prospective employees are expected to dress appropriately, know how to eat at restaurants, speak in public, and treat people of either sex with respect and dignity.

If children grow up without learning how to use cutlery correctly, is it any wonder that they face difficulties in finding jobs?

This cultural ineptitude is construed as - contorted into - ‘racism’, fomenting a sense of injustice.

Azziza (not her real name) is a very well-spoken middle-aged mother, abandoned by her husband, and about to finish her business degree, paid by the British taxpayer. She pointed to her Muslim robes and said, “Look at me. No one is going to employ me.” At least she did not claim victimhood. Yet.

Previously migrants adapted – in their manner of dress, language, demeanour – in order to thrive professionally. Now Azziza could choose to put on a business suit at her next job interview or remain unemployed – and unemployable – as the generous welfare system allows her this luxury, as have great swathes of the migrant population.

They may be well-homed and well-fed, but there is a poverty of the soul.

The lack of structure in unemployment leads to purposelessness. Depression and/or drug use ensue, often leading to crime and incarceration. When a seemingly purposeful/happy person comes along to say, “I can offer you a purpose/mission in life. You can become part of a global brotherhood,” it must seem an incredibly attractive option.

This person could be a ‘Kong Hee-type’ who then says, “Repent of your sin and henceforth live an abundant life, using your talents to serve God and society.” Or a Muslim radical who says, “Kill all infidels.”

Those teenage girls from East London who travelled to Syria are also ‘between cultures’. They only wanted to be able to choose their boyfriends and husbands like most girls in Britain. If they cannot do it in Britain – because their families have strong objections – it must sound irresistibly attractive to be able to do so, even if only in Syria.

As an individual I can only do so much to draw the marginalized like Azziza into mainstream society, befriending them and lending support as I do. Migrant families have huge resources thrown at them – free education, free health, welfare support. They have to choose to get out of their physical, mental and cultural ghetto.

Surely it is unacceptable in 21st century Britain that people are excused from shaking hands with the guest-of-honour at new citizens and university graduation ceremonies because such ceremonial physical contact between males and females is prohibited in their religion.

If they have chosen to live in this enlightened society, then they must accept and live in this society for what it is: in its totality. They cannot pick and choose those bits that benefit them and then bite the hand that feeds because certain practices do not accord with beliefs that belong to the Dark Ages.

Only policy-makers can make such individuals toe the line. “Between cultures” is not a nice place to be.

Wednesday, 21 October 2015

Reprise: Tears in Heaven

With the verdict announced at the CHC trial I read my previous posts again:

Tears in Heaven (original in September 23, 2008) and

Mega-church = mega-ego. Beware!

My Christian friends, read, weep, and then pray. Do not worship any person/career/title/goal as God.

Non-Christian readers: This only goes to show how we are ALL -- everyone -- human. And therefore corruptible. Do not believe anyone who tells you that he/she is perfect.

By the same token, do not condemn anyone who has not had a perfect life. Because even the worst of sinners can be forgiven by God.

That is grace.

Monday, 12 October 2015

Letter from (to?) PM re: Rules of Prudence


Preamble

An ex-classmate alerted me to this letter on FB, with the accompanying message: To all my non-Singaporean friends, this is the integrity of our Singapore ruling government that makes us proud to be called Singaporeans.

It was the next bit that disturbed me: (Singaporeans, who have left Singapore and cannot relate to this, pls refrain from comments.)

The last time I checked there is still freedom of speech and expression where I live.

When I finally found time to return to her post I FB’d her to ask if her remark was aimed at me, noting that, actually I have not ‘left’ Singapore. It was Singapore that ‘left’ me and others like me.

The Letter

So now we know, there is such a thing as a ‘traditional letter from the PM’. It was an impressive letter, spoiled by the last paragraph (37) when the PM reveals that:‘I am releasing a copy of this letter to the media so that the public knows the high standards we demand of our MPs.’

I will not be the only one who wondered if the PM wrote with one eye on the wider readership, thereby losing some of his credibility, whether or not this suspicion is justified.

He missed a trick here. In another place and time this letter would have been sent only to its intended recipients – sans para 37 – and then ‘leaked’ by any number of new MPs in their FB/Twitter accounts to show how incorruptible the party is/aspires to be.

Para 4: Be humble in victory

“Humbled” and “humbling” were the most (some say over-) used words by PAP MPs on Election Night and its immediate aftermath. I suspect at least some were secretly thinking, “What a relief!” (or probably the equivalent "SweeSaying") but they did not want to admit to any self-doubt. To their credit, neither did any come across as being triumphalist. Either under direction and/or in a mass copycat manner the ‘humbling’ description became the buzzword.

‘Servants of the people’**?

This is the ethnographer speaking: To be truly a servant, MPs – and in particular Ministers – would do well to rid themselves of the fawning grassroots leaders and volunteers who swarm around them when making visits to their constituencies. From having a reserved parking space to not having to wait for the lift, such practices insulate MPs from the experience of real people. How can they possibly reflect the aggregate (as against the individual, at Meet-the-People sessions) concerns of the people if they have never used a stinking HDB lift?

UPHOLDING OUR REPUTATION AND INTEGRITY (Paras 5-9)

Good guidance here from the PM:

5. Never give cause for allegations that you are misusing your position, especially your access to Ministers. 

6. As MPs, you will come across many different sorts of people. …But a few will cultivate you to obtain benefits for themselves or their companies, to gain respectability by association with you, or to get you to influence ministries and statutory boards to make decisions in their favour.

7. At all times be seen to be beyond the influence of gifts or favours.

May I suggest that MPs designate a few charities every year (within their constituencies) to which ALL gifts will be directed on a strict rotation basis? These gifts could be used for staff and fundraising functions. That way, there is no question about MPs receiving personal gifts. Perhaps schemes like this are already in place?

8. Be scrupulously proper in your contacts with government departments or public officers.  Do not lobby any ministry or statutory board on behalf of anyone who is not your constituent or grassroots activist (my emphasis).

The problem here is too many people take on grassroots work precisely to gain the necessary contacts – and sympathetic ear. I am curious as to how an MP who has been ‘cultivated’ might find the gumption to turn on the grassroots activist to say, “Sorry, mate, I can’t speak on your behalf in this matter.”

Ironically the friend who alerted me to this letter said herself that she knows people who approach other ex-schoolmates (now senior civil servants) to help make smooth certain business operations/transactions.

9. MPs are often approached by friends, grassroots leaders or proprietors and businessmen to officiate at the openings of their new shops or other business events.

PM makes the salient point: once you accept one, you will be hard-pressed to draw a line.

SEPARATING BUSINESS AND POLITICS (paras 10-13)

Much of the rest of the letter was about drawing a line between the business/personal /professional and the political.

What I found curious was that while Ministers and ‘office holders’ are subject to the ‘reporting requirements of the Code of Conduct for ministers’ (para 35) other MPs only have to tell the PM ‘in confidence’ their ‘business and professional interests, present employment and monthly pay, all retainers and fees that [they] are receiving, and whether [their] job requires them to get in touch with officers of Government Ministries or statutory boards on behalf of employers or clients’.

Surely, in the interest of transparency, every single MP – of whatever party – should declare all these interests in a public register (as is done in other democracies), and which must be updated frequently (at least quarterly). This will help to silence any critic. Surely eyebrows – if not questions – will be raised if an MP accumulates, say, over 60 directorships. There are only 52 weeks in a year. How many directors meetings can this MP attend? But then, this could just be hearsay.

If there is anyone who stands to make the most pecuniary gain, it is the new MP who (1) might need some time to develop wisdom on what invites and inducements to decline, or (2) use this lack of experience as a defence for accepting such inducements. Take away any excuse for error during this ‘liminal’ period (before a new MP makes Minister) and the party will be on so-solid ground to repel any possible accusations come the next election.

A completely public register of interests would allow the electorate to see who has been working the hardest for his own or his constituents’ interests. Freedom of information and expression would mean that journalists and voters can scrutinize these interests and root out corruption (overt or covert) before it gets entrenched. A win-win situation. 

In the spirit of separating business and politics, why not separate the business of running a town council from the politics of representing one’s constituents?

It makes no sense at all for the administration of a town council to change hands if there is a change in political leadership in the constituency. Just consider now the messiness in Punggol East.

I tried to think of a parallel in the commercial world, but failed. Maybe the private golf club fits. The President’s position (or whatever the figure-head of a private golf club is called) is up for election. The incumbent President is unhappy with being voted out. He then sacks all the paid staff. The incoming President has no staff to run the club. Members cannot even buy drinks at the bar or pay their subscriptions. But every single member had been a paid-up member until then! (They qualified to vote.) Why should a change in non-administrative leadership affect their club services? (Are club members allowed to sue the club/President/ex-President for dereliction of duty?)

If, perchance, the principle that an MP should run the town council was hatched to create a stumbling block for opposition parties, then the sooner this block is removed, the quicker the ruling party will be seen as the magnanimous party that they should, and could, be. The Confucian concept of the junzi (gentleman) comes to mind. Let us err on the side of generosity.

If the party has truly been ‘humbled’, then clear the scores at AHPETC. Return the counter to zero. Give them a clean slate. That way the party can literally pull the rug from under the opposition.

Why stop at the town councils? De-politicize the grassroots organizations as well.

If this was my letter TO the PM, I might end with:

"As I have not ‘left Singapore’ I remain

Your humble servant"

**By coincidence my Bible reading for the day after I first drafted this post was: For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.” (Luke 14:11) 


Wednesday, 9 September 2015

Foreign Domestic Workers: The elephant in the room/house/flat

Source: http://www.appitierre.com/blog/2015/07/30/the-adapt-learning-framework-and-the-elephant-in-the-room/

As promised, from my 6th September 2015 Nomads post I am looking at another elephant in the room that has been totally ignored during this GE. Sort of, as I learned yesterday that a PAP candidate did mention Foreign Domestic Workers (FDWs) when he tried to argue his case against Minimum Wage for foreign workers.

According to government statistics we have some 222,500 FDWs in December 2014.

My friend ranted on her Facebook page how she had found it impossible to hire any Singaporeans who (1) bothered to attend interviews, (2) did not want to work on weekends, and (3) went on sick leave or simply did not show up for work when the going got tough.

I feel sorry for her and other SME owners like her. (I understand that the MNCs do not have the same issues.) She wanted the freedom to employ foreigners.

Is there any connection between the young Singaporean attitude towards work and the 222,500 FDWs?

I cannot prove this, so you can stop reading here. Most of my evidence is anecdotal but ah, the thinking is original, I hope.

Things happen, and people change, and this type of change is often evident after just one generation. I researched the Chinese in the UK. A respondent tells me that when the Hong Kong Chinese first arrived here to work in the Chinese restaurants, they had one goal: work hard, make money and go home.

Claiming benefits did not even occur to them. But within 25-30 years -- about one generation -- she noticed how younger Chinese were saying, "Why bother to work so hard when the government gives you so much money just for sitting around?"

That generational difference is sometimes translated into the more scientific sounding "cohort effect". So my mother's generation was a generation of hoarders because the cohort had nothing during the Japanese Occupation. My late mother refused to throw away a single rubber band. That was the measure of her previous 'nothingness'.

What then is the cohort effect of children being brought up by FDWs? The first ones arrived in a trickle in the mid-1980s. Then the floodgates were opened in the 1990s, it seemed.

Where previously only the professional families could afford FDWs, suddenly FDWs became a status symbol and lots of households had FDWs although the second income only marginally covered the cost of the FDW. Why?

Some say that FDWs were necessary because couples found it difficult to meet their mortgage payments on just one income. Some intimated that the pressure for women to continue working was exceedingly high, whatever their income.

Few women -- and men -- would admit this: It's much more fun working in an air-conditioned office where you can enjoy banter and gossip with grown-ups than staying at home to look after young children. It gives us much greater esteem: "I did not go to university to wipe my children's bums, you know."

I know. I worked in an NMC. Went on to get a PhD. Then I stayed home to wipe my child's bum. I wonder if Dr Huang (Dr Chee Soon Juan's wife) also -- at times -- felt the same resentment that I felt.

My friends in Singapore have very different attitudes towards their FDWs. Some are introduced as valued "helpers". Some are spoken to as if they have no right to exist. Others are rendered completely invisible. We might as well have been served by a ghost.

Once I asked my nephew to bring me a glass of water. It's the sort of thing I did when I was his age. Auntie visits, we go fetch her a drink. What did my nephew do? He shouted for his maid to bring me a glass of water.

Monkey see, monkey do.

Is it any wonder that this generation of young people do not know the meaning of service? Is it any wonder that my friend found it difficult to hire good service staff? To them, "service" equals "servitude". "Service" is NOT the same as "servitude". 

You can give abysmal, mediocre or excellent service. There is no such thing as good or bad servitude.

So, a generation of FDWs means a generation who feel they are above giving service. The chickens have come home to roost, as they say.

(I had words with my nephew. His family went without a maid as soon as it was possible. Nephew is a lovely young man now.)

Has anyone tried thinking outside the box to ask: How long do we want our children to be brought up by FDWs? What is the alternative to FDWs? How do we mesh in the need for FDWs, the PWP, HDB, etc. with facilitating the return of mothers to the work place?

I hope to explore this is greater detail in a later piece, backed by real research. After the GE.

Video? What about this? For the mothers.

Tuesday, 8 September 2015

There is no such thing as a perfect manifesto

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Contrary to what some "perfect" people might believe, there is no such thing as a perfect party and therefore there is no such thing as a perfect manifesto.

1984, my Sociology Honours classmates said, “Why don’t you form your own political party?” Then, as is now, there wasn’t a single political party with goals and philosophy that I can completely agree with. Fast forward to 2015, having looked at their manifestos -- which is a reflection of the party ideals -- there still isn’t a single party that completely represents my values.

I like the emphasis on “freedom of expression” and a free press by the Reform Party, the call by SDA to return the use of CPF for retirement instead of for housing and education, the proposal by WP (and SDP?) for Parliamentary Select Committees to scrutinize bills, definitive objectives in reducing class sizes (SDP, WP), and support for Small and Medium Enterprises (Singfirst, WP, SDP, RP, PAP). I think the call for a “separation of powers” (particularly between the legislative and executive) by the PPP is laudable, but they still have a lot of ideology to work through. The NSP manifesto, while it resonates with down-trodden Singaporeans, is too vague.

I struggle, though, with many of the proposals calling for minimum wage and universal benefits, because I have to deal with the fallout from such policies week in and week out. These policies are not only about money and reserves. Development studies have shown that throwing money at people groups alone does not make them richer or more viable.

A simple benefits system might be a good short-term answer but it is almost impossible to prevent “mission creep”. A comprehensive benefits system requires an onerous social and bureaucratic infrastructure. Perhaps more about this in a different post.

There is also a lot of common ground amongst the opposition parties with regards to the Population White Paper, CPF, HDB, income gap, putting Singaporeans first, etc such that it is difficult to distinguish the minutiae of one party manifesto from another. Maybe they should heed the SPP call for “collaborative, collective Government” (ie starting with a collaborative opposition). Thankfully, there are few three-corner fights and voters merely need to decide on one or the other.

How much more difficult it is to vote with our feet and join a political party!

There have been mumblings about certain candidates who, on the party election platform seems to espouse one set of causes, but had, on another, clearly opposed them. Are these candidates true to themselves? Are they worth our X beside their name (or party)? These causes could be LGBT, smoking in restaurants, shelters for cats, or lowering voting age to 16, anything close to your heart.

This, again, illustrates the important distinction between party and the person.

Personally I believe that children thrive best in two-parent families of opposite sex. But as a volunteer at my charity I have extended my help without bias to numerous single mothers and fathers. Am I a hypocrite? Dishonest? Maybe. But at least I have trained myself up to help those who most desperately need my help.

When these individuals come to me at my charity I put aside my prejudices because I have signed up to the principles of the charity. If I were to discriminate against a client on the basis of his age, sex, religion, sexuality or illness, I will almost certainly be asked to leave.

Similarly candidates who support "your" cause might not be able to vote in its favour while those who do oppose this same cause  might be required to vote for it for so long as they are “under the party whip”.

So, a day may come when I decide, “Enough. The nature of this charity has changed from when I first joined it. We are spending too much effort in (just as an example) helping people who are clearly involved in benefit fraud. That is dishonest.” I can leave this charity. I might even join another.

Likewise, some candidates move between parties. Several British politicians (including Winston Churchill) have “crossed the floor”. Sometimes this is solely for personal political gain. Sometimes our personal values change. Sometimes it is the party that has changed. Always they are trying to find the party that best represents their personal worldview.

Otherwise everyone would be needing to form their own political parties.

We are all imperfect beings. Political parties are made up of imperfect beings. They have imperfect manifestos.

Come Polling Day, the thing that matters to us is which party manifesto better (best in the three-corner fights) reflects the personal values I hold and the direction I wish our government to take.

Video: This could possibly be considered the manifesto for a perfect world. Dream on.